Holistic Sex Coach, Female Pleasure Expert & Intimacy Educator
Hi, I'm Bonnie...
When I went to the year 9 Career’s Advisor at school, I can’t say I had any idea that I’d build a career supporting women to love their bodies, have more fulfilling sex and experience epic pleasure. I kinda fell into this work unexpectedly about a decade ago, after my partner at the time introduced me to a different approach to sexuality.
I did not always feel lots of aliveness and pleasure in my body. For many years, I felt numb, disconnected from my body and like my sexuality was broken. I didn’t understand why other people enjoyed sex… I liked the intimacy, but the actual experience itself left me feeling flat and confused. Is this it? Is THIS sex?
Fumbling my way through the first 6 years of my sexually active life, it seemed like my sexuality existed to please others. I decided that my pleasure wasn’t important, I focused on trying to be ‘good in bed’, according to some weird idea I had. I decided I would never be able to orgasm during sex but it didn’t really matter, sex was still ok.
Fast forward 10 years and the sensitivity and pleasure I have in my body is approximately 100 x what it was when I was 24… way beyond what I ever imagined was possible. The exciting thing is that my pleasure potential keeps expanding. I now know that our capacity for pleasure is limitless, there is no end place where we’ve reached the height of our pleasure, the more we sensitise our bodies and open ourselves to feel more, the more our potential expands!
I feel a deep sense of care and love for my body and I feel empowered to communicate if something doesn’t feel right to me. Shame doesn’t get me like it used to, and I know how to use embodiment practices to support self enquiry, access epic pleasure and orgasm, build sensitivity and process my emotions to get myself out of stuckness.
On a daily basis, I get to support thousands of women to love their bodies, expand their pleasure potential, have mind-blowing sex, befriend their emotions and build more resilience to show up in their lives and do what’s important. It’s such an honour to share this work in the world.
I'm a Somatic Sexologist,
female pleasure expert & intimacy educator. I’ve basically spent the last decade of my life in the world of the female pelvis. Nothing brings me more joy than supporting women to release sexual shame & numbness, connect with their pleasure and discover more of who they are.
I've done a boatload of training...
which is all listed below. I believe in being transparent about exactly what I’m trained in, and I want to honour my incredible teachers and what I’ve received from them. My biggest learning, however, has come from the over 10,000 hours I’ve spent in 1:1 client work & facilitating workshops, trainings & retreats, all in person.
In 2018, I launched Yoni Club, a 3 month online women’s sexual wellness training. Now, close to 1000 women have joined Yoni Club from all over the world, and the results they get from this program actually blow my mind. We’ve just upgraded the content to have trauma-informed support. Most of my energy & focus goes into Yoni Club, but I do occasionally open my books for 1:1 coaching.
I'm a classic workaholic type...
I’ve been through burn out and massive stress in the past, so I need to consciously create space to rest and to simply be. At any given point I’m working on a handful of projects and I’m constantly (gently) wrangling my relentless creative inspiration into clear, specific goals. There’s a lot of letting go!
Passionate about writing,
simple living, organic food and quality time with loved ones, I’m happiest when I’m by a fire, watching a sunset, wandering along the beach or through the bush. I lived for many years in Europe, enjoying trips to India, Nepal & Asia. I feel pretty done with overseas travel for now, which is convenient because the borders are closed anyway!
I'm a country girl at heart.
I grew up on a farm on the south coast of NSW, Australia, without electricity or TV. Living in the city doesn’t come naturally to me, but I’m currently doing my best to live in Melbourne, while dreaming of my forever home in the country or by the sea.
With tons of self-compassion, lots of patience (this is a hard one for me!), and determination, I have been able to heal and transform the way I view my sexuality - emotionally, mentally, physically, and yes spiritually! It's been a beautiful journey - worth every effort. Thank you, Bonnie!!”
Bonnie is a rare gem. Her approach is authentic, gentle, embodied, relatable, natural & grounded. She creates and holds a safe, nurturing & honouring space. Bonnie's teachings are genuine, no B.S., holistic, informative, practical and easy to integrate; and I love her unique humour and enthusiasm.”
Bonnie is phenomenal! Switched on, grounded, absolutely amazing as a facilitator; I found Bonnie to be very real, personable, down-to-earth, relatable, compassionate, safe, wise, funny, kind, responsive and supportive.”
You never feel like you are being forced into something that you aren't open to or ready for. Everything is a beautiful invitation to explore and be curious, with a sense of play. What Bonnie shares in her work is something that I have been waiting for for a long time.
I am a sensual woman who feels deeply and she definitely speaks my language. Thank you Bonnie. You have given me the courage to explore myself more deeply and helped me trust myself more completely. I look forward to learning and growing in my new awareness."
What I love about Bonnie‘s work is that it’s a gateway to the unknown. She has a very soft and juicy presence and the work for her is easy when done with love and a gentle unwavering calm. For any women who’d like to start to connect with deeper self or go further along their current path, this work sets you on a journey you can follow and explore easily - whether for healing, pleasure, remembering, and so much more.
So many people in the field of sexology and women’s pleasure focus on what is trendy, not what is necessarily beneficial or sustainable. Bonnie understands that pleasure is much more than a quick, commodified orgasm.
Bonnie is authentic, passionate and insanely knowledgeable. The world would benefit immensely from hearing her wisdom.
Your work has given me a new connection to my pelvis and yoni, with access to more juiciness and interest in exploring practices that can improve my pelvic health / wellbeing. I’ve experienced healing from past wounds of unwanted or coerced sexual approaches. It has also given the possibility of a healthier sexual relationship with my partner as this became a step for my own healing.”
She has such a gentle and holistic approach to sexual wellness that I really admire. I believe every woman would benefit from Bonnie’s work."
A gifted speaker, facilitator & guest teacher...
Bonnie’s unique expertise is highly sought after for events, festivals, guest teaching, interviews & articles. With a warm, real and down to earth speaking style, Bonnie loves to use humour and personal stories to inspire and engage her audience.
With a depth of experience that ensures she speaks from her own embodied understanding, Bonnie has a wealth of experience gained from spending many thousands of hours with clients in both talk therapy and bodywork.
Widely recognised as an expert in the field of women’s pelvic bodywork, her work has been featured in print in Body+Soul Magazine, Living Now Magazine, Australian Yoga Journal, Sexual Health Magazine (USA) and online on Elephant Journal and VICE (among others) as well as on various podcasts and summits.
Reguarly invited in as an expert guest teacher on other trainings, Bonnie is open to discuss potential collaborations.
Bonnie’s favourite topics to speak on are…
Pelvic wellness, pleasureable living, emotional healing, sex education, sexual challenges women face in our culture, common myths and misconceptions about the vagina, the many kinds of female orgasm and pleasure as a nervous system resource.
Bonnie's work has been featured in...
Professional Training & Background…
Bonnie’s formal training includes:
Somatic Sexology, Certified Somatic Sexologist, through the IISB, Zurich
Gestalt Psychotherapy – Erik Smith – Gestalt Institute of Scandinavia
Certified Karsei Nei Tsang Practitioner (Taoist Abdominal Pelvic Therapy) Thailand
Introduction to Somatic Therapy Training – Amanda Patterson
Embodiment Teacher Training – Michaela Boehm (still completing)
Certified Holistic Pelvic Care (TM) Practitioner, trained by Tami Lynn Kent, USA
Extensive training in Yoga and Tantra, Denmark
Certified Ka Huna Massage Therapist – Mette’s Institute, QLD, Australia
Urogenital Osteopathic Techniques – Natalie le Jeune, France / Bali
Female reproductive massage – Pi Jem Thanachon, Thailand
Bonnie is grateful for the opportunity to learn from and be inspired by many different teachers and experts in their fields. She has been trained by the following teachers in areas including embodiment, psychotherapy, bodywork, somatics and spirituality…
Jenny Blyth (Birthwork) – bodywork for birth preparation – Australia
Natalie le Jeune – Urogenital osteopathy techniques – France
Holly Wodetzki – Shiva Shakti Dance – Australia
Chogyal Namkhai Norbu Rinpoche – (Tibetan Dzogchen Master) Italy
Michaela Boehm (relating / intimacy / polarity/ lineage work) USA
Steve James – co-teacher with Michaela Boehm, USA
Tami Lynn Kent – Holistic Pelvic Care (TM) – USA
John Bennati – private training in pelvic Muscle Corrective Therapy, Australia
Erik Smith – (Gestalt Therapist trainer) Gestalt Institute, Denmark
Didi Liebold – International Institute of Sexological Bodywork, Switzerland
Joseph Kramer – founder of Sexological Bodywork, USA
Pi Jem Thanachon– Female Reproductive massage, Thailand
Susanne Roursgaard – Female Sexuality & Dearmouring, Australia
Gigi Grace – Nervous System Therapist, Australia
Amanda Patterson – Somatic Therapy Training, Australia
A lot of it is simply getting used to the idea that I deserve pleasure & I deserve to know my own body better, which is completely new thinking, the opposite to what I've thought all my life!! Thanks so much for doing what you do, Bonnie!"