Hi, I'm Bonnie...
When I went to the ‘career advisor’ at school, I can’t say I had any idea that I’d build a career supporting women to feel at home in their bodies, overcome libido challenges, have more fulfilling intimacy and find a path forward after experiencing sexual trauma. I fell into this work unexpectedly over a decade ago, after my partner at the time introduced me to a different approach to sexuality.
For many years, I felt numb and disconnected from my body. I thought I was broken.
Fumbling my way through the first 6 years of my sexually active life, it seemed like my body existed to please others. I was stuck in performative patterns, believing that sex was something I owed a partner. I felt very little pleasure and just assumed that my pleasure wasn’t important and I’d never be able to enjoy intimacy.
These days, I feel a deep sense of care and love for my body and I feel empowered to communicate if something doesn’t feel right to me. Shame doesn’t get me like it used to, and I know how to use embodiment practices to support self enquiry, access pleasure, build sensitivity and move through challenging emotions that arise in the bedroom.
On a daily basis, I get to support thousands of women to enjoy being in their bodies, expand their pleasure potential and experience deeeper intimacy. It’s such an honour to share this work in the world.
I'm a Somatic Sexologist,
women’s pelvic specialist & embodiment teacher. I’ve basically spent the last decade of my life in the world of the female pelvis. Nothing brings me more joy than supporting women to release shame & numbness, connect with their pleasure (especially after challenging experiences!), overcome libido issues and feel more at home in their bodies.
I've done a boatload of training...
which is all listed below. I believe in being transparent about exactly what I’m trained in, and I want to respect my incredible teachers and what I’ve received from them. My biggest learning however, has come from the 10,000+ hours I’ve spent in 1:1 client work & facilitating workshops, trainings & retreats in person.
These days, my work is all online.
I’ve shared my various paid programs and trainings with over 5000 students so far. Currently I offer a range of lower cost programs, as well as an immersive 4 month program for women – The School of Embodied Pleasure.
I sometimes take too much on.
Usually working on a handful of projects, I’m also working on (gently) wrangling my relentless creative inspiration into specific plans. I’ve been through burn out before so I try not to hustle or push too hard.
I'm a country girl at heart.
I grew up on a farm on Yuin country on the south coast of NSW, Australia, without electricity or television. I definitely miss the country lifestyle, but I’m loving living in Melbourne now. I live just north of the city with my partner, who also works from home (he’s a psychotherapist, we have great chats!).
I love moving my body,
being in water, and connecting with people I love. I’m happiest when I’m by a fire or wandering through the bush. I’m an extroverted introvert. I’m an Aries and I’m wildly impatient. I laugh a lot. I’m better with 1:1 time with people rather than groups. I have a weird neurological condition called prosopagnosia, which means I often don’t recognise people’s faces. (Yes, it’s as awkward as it sounds!)
With tons of self-compassion, lots of patience (this is a hard one for me!), and determination, I have been able to heal and transform the way I view my sexuality - emotionally, mentally, physically, and yes spiritually! It's been a beautiful journey - worth every effort. Thank you, Bonnie!!”
Bonnie is a rare gem. Her approach is authentic, gentle, embodied, relatable, natural & grounded. She creates and holds a safe, nurturing & honouring space. Bonnie's teachings are genuine, no B.S., holistic, informative, practical and easy to integrate; and I love her unique humour and enthusiasm.”
Bonnie is phenomenal! Switched on, grounded, absolutely amazing as a facilitator; I found Bonnie to be very real, personable, down-to-earth, relatable, compassionate, safe, wise, funny, kind, responsive and supportive.”
You never feel like you are being forced into something that you aren't open to or ready for. Everything is a beautiful invitation to explore and be curious, with a sense of play. What Bonnie shares in her work is something that I have been waiting for for a long time.
I am a sensual woman who feels deeply and she definitely speaks my language. Thank you Bonnie. You have given me the courage to explore myself more deeply and helped me trust myself more completely. I look forward to learning and growing in my new awareness."
What I love about Bonnie‘s work is that it’s a gateway to the unknown. She has a very soft presence and the work for her is easy when done with love and a gentle unwavering calm. For any women who’d like to start to connect with deeper self or go further along their current path, this work sets you on a journey you can follow and explore easily - whether for healing, pleasure, remembering, and so much more.
So many people in the field of sexology and women’s pleasure focus on what is trendy, not what is necessarily beneficial or sustainable. Bonnie understands that pleasure is much more than a quick, commodified orgasm.
Bonnie is authentic, passionate and insanely knowledgeable. The world would benefit immensely from hearing her wisdom.
Your work has given me a new connection to my pelvis and yoni, with access to more juiciness and interest in exploring practices that can improve my pelvic health / wellbeing. I’ve experienced healing from past wounds of unwanted or coerced sexual approaches. It has also given the possibility of a healthier sexual relationship with my partner as this became a step for my own healing.”
She has such a gentle and holistic approach to sexual wellness that I really admire. I believe every woman would benefit from Bonnie’s work."
A gifted speaker, facilitator & guest teacher...
Bonnie’s unique expertise is highly sought after for events, festivals, guest teaching, interviews & articles. With a warm, real and down-to-earth speaking style, Bonnie loves to use humour and personal stories to inspire and engage her audience.
With a depth of experience that ensures she speaks from her own embodied understanding, Bonnie has a wealth of knowledge gained from spending many thousands of hours with clients in person.
Widely recognised as an expert in the field of women’s pelvic wellness, her work has been featured in print in Body+Soul Magazine, Living Now Magazine, Australian Yoga Journal, Sexual Health Magazine (USA) and online on Elephant Journal and VICE (among others) as well as on various podcasts and summits.
Regularly invited in as an expert guest teacher on other trainings, Bonnie is open to discuss potential collaborations.
Bonnie’s favourite topics to speak on are…
Pelvic wellness, healthy intimate relating, sexual challenges women face in our culture, common myths surrounding sex education, healing from sexual trauma and pleasure as a nervous system resource.
Bonnie's work has been featured in...
Professional Training & Background…
Bonnie’s formal training includes:
Somatic Sexology, Certified Somatic Sexologist, through the IISB, Zurich
Gestalt Psychotherapy – Erik Smith – Gestalt Institute of Scandinavia
Certified Karsei Nei Tsang Practitioner (Taoist Abdominal Pelvic Therapy) Thailand
Introduction to Somatic Therapy Training – Amanda Patterson
Embodiment Teacher Training – Michaela Boehm (still completing)
Wild Women’s Way Facilitator Training – Michaela Boehm (still completing)
Integrative Somatic Trauma Therapy Certification (still completing)
Certified Sensual Embodied Dance facilitator – Holly Wodetzki
Certified Holistic Pelvic Care (TM) Practitioner, trained by Tami Lynn Kent, USA
Extensive training in Hatha Yoga, Denmark
Certified Ka Huna Massage Therapist – Mette’s Institute, QLD, Australia
Urogenital Osteopathic Techniques – Natalie le Jeune, France / Bali
Female reproductive massage – Pi Jem Thanachon, Thailand
Bonnie is grateful for the opportunity to learn from and be inspired by many different teachers and experts in their fields. She has been trained by the following teachers in areas including embodiment, psychotherapy, bodywork and somatics…
Jenny Blyth (Birthwork) – bodywork for birth preparation – Australia
Natalie le Jeune – Urogenital osteopathy techniques – France
Holly Wodetzki – Shiva Shakti Dance – Australia
Michaela Boehm (relating / intimacy / polarity/ lineage work) USA
Steve James – co-teacher with Michaela Boehm, USA
Tami Lynn Kent – Holistic Pelvic Care (TM) – USA
John Bennati – private training in pelvic Muscle Corrective Therapy, Australia
Erik Smith – (Gestalt Therapist trainer) Gestalt Institute, Denmark
Didi Liebold – Somatic Sexologist, Switzerland
Joseph Kramer – founder of Somatic Sexology, USA
Pi Jem Thanachon– Female Reproductive massage, Thailand
Susanne Roursgaard – Female Sexuality & Dearmouring, Australia
Gigi Grace – Nervous System Therapist, Australia
Amanda Patterson – Somatic Therapy Training, Australia
A lot of it is simply getting used to the idea that I deserve pleasure & I deserve to know my own body better, which is completely new thinking, the opposite to what I've thought all my life!! Thanks so much for doing what you do, Bonnie!"
